Many of my clients who have decided to pursue divorce want the process to be as fair and respectful as possible. They have heard horror stories about how awful their friend’s divorce was and they really want to avoid becoming vindictive and spiteful. They want to be mindful of how they are handling issues that […]

Loneliness in Kansas City While Kansas City is a great place to live and is known for its barbeque, baseball, jazz, trains, and fountains, it can still feel lonely. How do you make a big city feel less lonely? Whether you have recently relocated to the Kansas City area or you are going through a […]

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” ~ Maya Angelou If anyone told you that your marriage would end with pain and hurt, you would have never gotten married in the first place. The truth is none of us marry expecting […]

‘You are like the foundation of a house. It can withstand fire as well as the most severe of storms. You built your marriage on top of this foundation. The marriage crumbled, the walls came falling down, and you grieved. When you sweep away the debris, you are left with a beautiful, strong foundation to […]

Divorce hurts, whether you are the one initiating the process or not. It can hurt so bad that you want to move through it as fast as possible. Except you can’t hurry grief. You can, however, keep moving through it. You’ve probably heard that people go through stages of grief when someone dies. Even though […]

You’ve been wanting to give counseling a try, but many things stop you from making that initial call to find a counselor. You keep trying to figure out how you can make it work. That is getting to the therapist’s office every week sounds like more stress than you need right now. While going to […]

You had this really nasty fight with your significant other and you can’t stop thinking about it. The kind of argument that lasts for hours and you can’t even remember what you are fighting about by the time you are done. You feel emotionally drained and physically exhausted. Yet you keep replaying the argument in […]

“I want a divorce,” are four words that are among the worst you will ever hear. Whether these words are spoken repeatedly by your spouse after a fight, or this is the first time you’ve heard them utter these words, your heart drops into your stomach. And you immediately feel panic, anger, and hurt all […]

You feel like you have tried everything to get your spouse to understand what you need in your relationship. But nothing is working. Or if it works, it doesn’t last for long. You are so frustrated, but you don’t want to throw in the towel. Because even though you sometimes feel at the end of […]

You’ve had this nagging feeling going on for days, or maybe even weeks. You just can’t shake it. That feeling that you just aren’t happy in your relationship. You wish your partner would meet your needs better. And when you get to this point, you can’t help but blurt out how you are feeling in hopes […]