End-of-Year Journal Prompts for Personal Growth
Many of us are so ready to say "Goodbye" to 2020. It's been a year like no other.
Whether you wore masks or slippers and sweats every day, we have collectively grieved and adapted to so much. There has been much to come to terms with both socially and economically. And often we get to the end of the year and focus on all that we haven't done.
So instead of letting self-criticism take the lead, I invite you to pause with me in ending this year with a compassionate journaling practice. I know slowing down to reflect doesn't come naturally to most of us, especially if we are struggling. Learning to be a good friend to ourselves in the struggle and growth takes intentional practice. Otherwise, most of us speed up, numb out, or distract ourselves when in pain and stress.
To help you end your year differently, I will guide you through a 3 step end-of-year journal practice that begins with helping you create space for self-reflection.
Creating Space for End-of-Year Self-Reflection
Step 1: Slow Down
While most of the world speeds up and is jumping to claim their New Year's resolutions or make their vision boards, I invite you to slow down instead. Savor where you have been before you choose where you are going next. Some of my favorite ways to invite myself to slow down are:
Lighting a candle
Making my favorite tea
Focusing on my breath without trying to change it
Listening to soothing music
Getting cozy with a soft blanket
Grounding on the floor with my knees or legs elevated
Journal Prompt for Slowing Down: What helps you slow down and invite compassionate self-reflection?
Step 2: Celebrate
Now that you have slowed yourself down, it's time to claim and acknowledge how you've grown this year. Consider different areas of your life from emotions, relationships, health, and even work. And honor each growth even if it's a work in progress. There is power in being witnessed, so write it down or say it out loud to a trusted friend or family member.
Even though there were many challenges this year, there is also much to celebrate! I celebrate witnessing both my own and my client's growth this year. Here are some highlights from the ways I've witnessed you growing:
Growing in trusting yourself
Feeling more confident accessing calm from within
Tending to your needs more than you have before
Healing your own heart after infidelity
Mending your marriage by choosing to work on your part
Understanding and respecting yourself even when others think differently
Accepting all of your feelings
Reaching out for help and support
Enjoying what you already have and living more in the moment
Journal Prompts for Celebrating Growth: In what ways have you grown this year? What are you proud of? What did you make progress on this year?
Step 3: Release
Next, I invite you to reflect on ways that you made changes this year that helped you live a healthier and happier life. Maybe it was a habit you stopped. Or you gradually let go of internally treating yourself poorly. Or maybe you want to take a stand today as a way of releasing something that is no longer helping you.
Here are some of the things I've witnessed you releasing and letting go of this year:
Letting go of the shame of divorce
Releasing comparing yourself to others and feeling not good enough
Letting go of the need for perfection in yourself
Releasing self-judgment and self-criticism
Letting go of numbing
Releasing trying to do it all on your own
Letting go of worry about future hurt and loss
Journal Prompts for Celebrating Letting Go: What have you let go of this year? What have you released that is no longer helping you live your best life?
Even though we may be miles and continents away, I witness you. I hear the pain and heartache. And I also see growth and transformation. I'm honored to support your commitment to yourself and what matters most to you.
May we walk into this New Year having collectively acknowledged how we are making a difference in our own lives, so we can be a part of the change we wish to see in our world. Because the more compassion we have for ourselves, the more we can have for each other. And that is something worth celebrating!
Note: This end-of-year practice is inspired by one of my teachers and guides, Christine Arylo. You can receive Christine's completion and reflection ritual here. I've been doing this process with Christine's guidance for years and it's a nourishing way to end the year.
Marci Payne, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor in Missouri
If you love journaling for personal and relationship growth, you are invited to check out my courses on Healthy Boundaries & Prioritizing Yourself.