How often do I meet with the counselor?
Clients decide how frequent they want to meet with the counselor/therapist. Typically, clients like to meet more frequently at the beginning of counseling until they are ready to space out the sessions. This gives clients the opportunity to think, observe, and practice new ways of thinking between sessions.
Most clients attend counseling sessions on the average of 6 months, with some more and some less. The client is empowered to monitor their progress and decide when they have achieved their initial goals. Many people choose to address more goals and problems than they initially defined at the beginning of counseling sessions, but this is not necessary. Clients attend the length and frequency that is useful to them.
What is it like to work with a counselor?
Mental health professionals vary in how they think about problems and challenges people face. Some professionals think problems reside within the person, while other professionals think problems are based on the person’s past or a medical condition.
My approach is based on Bowen Family Systems Theory which considers a broader context of emotional and relationship system variables when addressing life challenges. I offer an alternative perspective to think about how problems that occur within an individual impact what goes on between people and vice versa. In this way, problems that are created and/or reacted to in a relationship system are then addressed and corrected by the system itself.
I will never tell you what to do or how to solve you or your relationship’s problems. Instead, I will ask thoughtful questions that will help you develop new thinking and create new choices. The clinical hour is where you gather energy and clarity to work on new ways of thinking and relating to others outside of sessions. While the consultation session is important, change happens between sessions.
How do I get the most out of counseling?
The more active you are in the process, the more you will get out of counseling. The most important thing is to be ready to take responsibility for the direction of your life and/or your part in the relationship problems. We all want someone to tell us to what to do sometimes, but I want you to walk away feeling empowered and surer of what you want to do.
People don’t often realize they need to come prepared to their counseling session. Having goals or problems you want to address will help focus the session. And observing and monitoring your own progress toward your goals will help fine tune the work you do between sessions.
Counseling is an investment in time and money, and you want to get the most out of your investment in yourself and your relationships. For more ideas including keeping a counseling journal, read 8 Ways to Make the Most of the Counseling.
How do I schedule an appointment with this counselor?
Appointments are available on weekdays from Monday-Thursday and one evening a week in my Independence MO office, but I also work with residents of surrounding cities such as Blue Springs, Lee’s Summit, and Grain Valley. I work with men, women, and married couples who are struggling with their relationships and/or experiencing anxiety.
Finding a counselor near you that is a good fit for you is a personal decision. To help you explore what it would be like to work with me and further answer your questions about counseling, schedule free 15-minute phone consult with me. And you’ll be on your way to discovering how you can begin growing your confidence and connections.