What to Ask Before Starting Counseling in Lee's Summit
Talking to a Therapist
Deciding to start therapy is a positive step, but it’s understandable if you feel a bit overwhelmed when it comes to finding the right therapist. Whether this is your first experience or you’ve had challenges before, selecting a counselor who truly fits your needs is an important and personal decision.
In my recent guide to finding the right therapist in Lee’s Summit, I encouraged you to schedule an initial consultation call with a therapist once you’ve narrowed it down to 2-3 options. Now, I want to help you take the next step by preparing for your first phone call with potential therapists. If you're hoping to gain clarity about what you're looking for or need helpful questions to ask before starting counseling in Lee's Summit, this post is here to support you.
Before You Call: Understanding What You Need
Your journey to finding a therapist starts from within. Even if you've been feeling uneasy for quite a while, taking a moment to pause and reflect before reaching out for counseling in Lee's Summit can bring you closer to finding someone who truly fits your needs.
Working with a therapist is starting a new relationship. Prepare by reflecting on what you need help with and what you're looking for in a provider. Remember that you don’t need to have a long list of questions ready. Most counselors will guide the conversation and ask questions to get to know you. guide the conversation, but having a few points in mind helps ensure your needs are met.
Here are some self-reflection questions to consider before your initial call to a therapist:
What challenges or problems are you currently facing?
What are your goals for counseling, or how would you like to feel (or become) after finishing therapy?
What is your monthly budget for therapy?
What are your preferences regarding your therapist’s gender, age, race, and/or religious background?
What days and times work best for you to attend therapy sessions?
Do you have a preference for in-person counseling in Lee's Summit or online therapy across Missouri and Kansas?
Do you have a disability, neurodivergence, or specific identity that you want your counselor to accommodate or affirm?
Is there anything you want your therapist to NOT do?
Is there anything you want your therapist to definitely do?
Remember, you don’t need to answer all of these questions. You can often find helpful details on a therapist's website or directory profile. Bring your preferences with you to your first call, so you can address or listen for what’s most important to you.
The First Conversation: What to Ask a Potential Therapist or Counselor in Lee's Summit Therapist
You don’t need to ask questions to determine whether they're a good fit. However, for some of you, asking questions is crucial in the decision-making process. So, here are some common questions that can help you assess whether the therapist you're having an initial call with is the right fit:
How long have you been a licensed therapist or counselor?
How long have you been providing counseling for people like me?
Have you ever worked with anyone with my particular issues before? (If yes, how often?)
I am (disabled, LGBTQIA+, healing from religious trauma, etc.). Will I feel safe sharing these identities with you? (Pro Tip: Listen for affirming language, humility, openness to feedback, and/or an active commitment to unlearning systemic biases, such as ableism or heteronormativity.)
How often will we meet? (or How long are sessions?)
What are your fees? (or Do you take my insurance?)
What is your current availability for new counseling clients? (or What days and times do you have open for ongoing appointments?)
My biggest tip is to let the therapist guide the consultation, so you can get a feel for what it is like to talk to them. Some counselors are more directive and structured, while others prefer a more open-ended and collaborative approach. By showing up and engaging, you'll start to get a sense of what working with them might be like.
If the potential therapist doesn’t naturally answer your most important questions or address your concerns, don’t hesitate to ask them before the call ends. Remember to let what you’re looking for guide your questions. It’s all about making sure you find the right fit for you.
After the Call: How to Know Which Therapist Is The Best Fit
During the phone consultation, you might feel an immediate sense of relief and connection. Other times, you may need to wait to schedule, so you can tune in to yourself. Aside from making sure a therapist in Lee’s Summit (or nearby) aligns with your schedule and budget, answer these two questions:
Did you feel comfortable talking to the therapist (or like they “get” you)?
Do you feel like they can help you?
That’s it! If you’ve jotted down a few preferences and know what you are looking for, then you are ready to make or schedule your first call.
My wish for you is to find a therapist who truly matches your needs. If you're searching for counseling in Lee’s Summit, MO, a variety of support is available. Whether you're navigating challenging relationships, healing from the past, or wanting to be more yourself, therapy can make a positive difference.
Author: Marci Payne, MA, LPC, LCPC
She is an IFS therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor in Missouri and Kansas, with a private practice located in Lee’s Summit, MO. Her expertise includes individual therapy for people-pleasers, empaths, and adults recovering from emotionally abusive relationships. Marci provides both online and in-person sessions and is recognized as a non-traditional, holistic, and inclusive therapist. (Learn more about counseling in Lee’s Summit here.)
Originally published September 2025, and last updated September 2026.