You’ve created this great family, but you’re not happy. You are overwhelmed, burned out, irritable, and tired of feeling responsible for others problems. It’s hard for you to relax because you feel driven to please others. So when your spouse or children complain, you go into fix-it mode without giving it a second thought. You love your family, but you feel like you are disappearing. More than anything, you want to be there for your family without losing yourself completely.
You’ve tried venting to your friends, but it’s not helping anymore. It’s great to have their support, but sometimes it makes you feel more hurt and angry at your family. It’s great to be heard, but you really want to find a constructive way to not let others mood and behavior define your value. And you are ready to work on yourself, even if others don’t work on their part in the problem.
What will it be like to work with a counselor on my own?
I have special training in marriage and family relationships that help put problems in a new perspective. My questions cut through the haze of emotions, so you can begin to see your options and listen to your deep desires in a new way. I want you to have lasting change, not just put a band-aid on the conflict of the day.
I teach that you don’t need to take responsibility for others part of the problem, just work on knowing and owning your part. And sometimes this means doing less, not more. It is possible to care about your marriage and children without feeling responsible for them. This is the first step in finding yourself in your relationships.
Do you want to feel more confident in yourself and in your relationships?
Since your growth doesn’t have to be dependent on others changing, you don’t have to wait for your spouse or child to agree to attend counseling too. If you are ready to work less on people pleasing and more on defining yourself, pick a time for your free 15-minute phone consultation with me. And find out if working with a counselor near you is the next step toward finding happiness and getting your confidence back.
Note: Counseling for women is available in my Independence office, but I also see clients who reside in surrounding cities of Blue Springs, Grain Valley, and Lee’s Summit.