You never thought your marriage would end, but now you are trying to figure out how to make it through this without your best friend to talk to. Now you can’t even imagine taking off your ring because letting her go is so hard. You’ve tried to convince her to try again, but she’s not changing her mind. And when your kids leave after their scheduled weekend visit, the house is so eerily quiet. It’s hard to get your mind off anything but the divorce.
When you talk to your friends and co-workers they suggest you start dating right away, because it’s hard for them to see you sad. But the thought of dating on some app is quite intimidating at the moment. You know there has to be another way to boost your confidence through this process, as you don’t want to end up sitting at the end of the bar alone and trying to forget.
Do you want to improve your resilience and healing from divorce?
Even though you are devastated, you can grow through your divorce recovery. I have specialized training in marriage and family systems. We will explore what patterns contributed to the marriage ending so you can get clarity on what contributed to the divorce. Because the more you learn from this experience, the less you will get stuck in anger, guilt, shame, and blame.
Are you interested in working with a counselor or therapist?
You could continue to go on like this, building anger at your ex, drinking more, and feeling more and more lonely. If you want to learn from your divorce and be more confident being single again whether or not you are ready to date, pick a time for your free 15-minute phone consult with me. And determine if working with a counselor near you is the next best step.
Note: Counseling for men is available in my Independence office, but I also see clients who reside in surrounding cities of Blue Springs, Grain Valley, and Lee’s Summit. And I work with men on a variety of issues, including marriage, anxiety, job stress, parenting, divorce recovery, and dating.