You feel confident in your work, but when you come home you feel like you need to tip toe. You’ve had a few children, and love the family you’ve created together, but something is missing. You barely touch each other anymore, and you are starting to compare your relationship to that of a roommate.
As you lay awake at night, trying to turn your mind off, you keep worrying about growing apart. You don’t want to just stay together for the kids. And most of all, you don’t want to wake up some day and realize you barely know the person lying next to you.
Although you wonder if other married couples also go through these changes, you keep it all to yourself. Because you feel like you’ve tried everything from trying to talk to your spouse about your feelings to ignoring your feelings. You are ready for something to change, but unsure where to start.
What is it like to work with a marriage counselor?
I help you become more mindful of your part is in the emotional and physical distance that you are experiencing. Often, we are so focused on our spouse’s behavior that we overlook how we may be contributing to the distance that is bothering us. The more you each work on your part in the co-created distance and conflict, the more you will begin recognizing opportunities for intimacy instead of getting in your own way.
In doing so, we talk about how marriage is an invitation to grow yourself through the seasons of change in your family. I have special training in understanding marriage and family systems that help put the problems you are struggling with in a new perspective. My questions help you sort out your emotions from your thoughts, so you can tap into your inner wisdom. We work together to uncover what ways of thinking and relating work best for you to connect in new, more intimate ways both emotionally and physically.
How do you find a marriage counselor near you?
Marriage counseling is available in my Independence office, but I also see clients who reside in surrounding cities of Blue Springs, Grain Valley, and Lee’s Summit.
If you are a couple that feels like you are only roommates after you’ve had children, schedule a free 15-minute phone consult for each of you. We will discuss whether counseling is the next step you can take to rebuild your confidence and begin connecting again with your spouse.
Once you decide you are ready to invest in counseling, I meet with each partner individually to begin the assessment and goal setting process. Then, I meet with the couple together after 1-2 individual sessions each. After the initial 3-5 sessions, you can continue with individual sessions, couples sessions, or both.
Note: If your spouse isn’t ready for marriage counseling for two, you may want to consider relationship counseling for one. Read more about individual counseling here.