You feel confident in your work, but when you come home you feel like you need to tiptoe around your spouse. You’ve had a few children, and love the family you’ve created together, but something is missing. You barely touch each other anymore, and you are starting to compare your relationship to that of a roommate.
As you lay awake at night, trying to turn your mind off, you keep thinking about how your partner is almost completely checked out of your relationship. You don’t want to just stay together for the kids. And most of all, you don’t want to wake up some day and realize you barely know the person lying next to you.
You want to work on your relationship, but your partner doesn’t think counseling is for them. You are frustrated but aren’t interested in giving your spouse an ultimatum to pull them along with you. You are considering going to marriage counseling on your own, but wonder how things can change if you don’t go together.
What is “marriage counseling for one”?
I specialize in marriage counseling for one, which is working with one spouse in the room. The most intensive work goes on in the one-to-one conversations with each of you separately, which is different than traditional marriage counseling. I want to help you individually gain clarity on your part in the problem, not just to get along better, but to work on what is both best for you and for your relationship.
If you and your spouse are both interested in working with the same counselor, then each of you can work with me in marriage counseling for one. Maybe you had a bad experience doing therapy in the same room. Or maybe you want to come on your own and really dig in without having to convince your spouse to join you in counseling. Either way, you both don’t need to be in the therapy room in order for the relationship to improve or for you to find relief and happiness.
I help you become more mindful of your part is in the distance and conflict you are experiencing. Often, we are so focused on our spouse’s behavior that we overlook how we may be contributing to the problem that is bothering us. The more you understand your part in the co-created relationship problems, the more you will begin recognizing opportunities for intimacy instead of getting in your own way.
How do you find a marriage counselor near you?
There are many types of marriage counseling and I’m happy to help you decide which style may be the best fit for what you are looking for. If I’m not the best counselor for you and your marriage, I may know someone who is.
So if you are struggling in your marriage and want a better way to connect even if your spouse doesn’t come along, schedule a free 15-minute phone consult with me. I have different packages for working with stressed-out men and women who are also frustrated in their marriage. We will discuss whether counseling is the next step you can take to rebuild your confidence and get your needs met without making things worse.
Note: Individual relationship counseling is available for men and women at my Independence office. (Also serving clients in surrounding cities of Blue Springs, Grain Valley, Lee’s Summit, and Kansas City MO).