Understanding How Anxiety is Created Humans are the only ones who can turn the stress response on by imagining threatening situations in our minds. When you worry, you are believing the “what if’s” that you tell yourself. Your fear response is activated as if there is real danger. If you were in danger the stress […]

Last month we explored the assumptions that contribute to moms becoming overwhelmed, stressed out, and drained. As a mom you respond to pressures and expectations by trying to meet everyone else’s needs. Meeting your own needs as a mom is often an after thought. Most moms don’t recognize they are overwhelmed until they develop emotional, […]

Moms are tired and want permission to slow down, breathe, and do less. Being a mom has its exciting and tender moments. But it can also be stressful and frustrating, especially in today’s busy, fast-paced, indulging culture. We care so much for our children, and want the best for them. But we can lose sleep […]

Last week we explored what contributes to emotional distance and how to address your own distance to be less lonely in your marriage. Most of you will naturally be more open, positive, and playful with your spouse when you address your own distancing mindsets and behaviors. But others of you will need some help taking […]

More married couples are lonely than ever before. And many couples feel hopeless on how to better connect with their spouse after many years of distance growing between them. While you used to be able to tell your spouse anything. Over time, you learned what upsets your partner and you started avoiding those topics. Now  you […]

Working with a Counselor for the First Time You’ve taken the step to schedule your first appointment with a psychotherapist or a counselor. However, you are nervous and worried you may not know what to do when you get there. You have all these thoughts running through your head, like”Will they judge me? Will it really help?” […]

When Your Worry Takes Over Worry is like being on a spinning ride minus the thrill of excitement. Instead worry is  experiencing spinning thoughts filled with what-ifs. One worry leads to another worry with no clear direction of how to stop the dizzying spin. Worry is not only spinning in circles, but it is also […]

Divorce is not a failure Divorce is an ending or changing of a relationship with different degrees of cutoff. Some divorces involve complete cutoff (or avoidance), while others are friendly and cooperative. There will be many changes to adapt to and emotions to work through. And it can take 1-3 years to adapt to the […]

The Desire and Challenge of Developing Friendships as an Adult Do you wish you had more friends like when you were a child? Or maybe you’ve never felt confident about meeting or developing friendships, and it hasn’t gotten easier as an adult. It can be hard to admit that you are lonely but think of […]

Everyone Experiences Anxiety Children aren’t the only ones that feel anxious sometimes. All of us have felt worried or apprehensive about something that happened in the past or may happen in the future. While it’s possible to manage anxiety, or perception that there is a threat, it can never be completely eliminated. Fear is useful […]